My Children’s Mom is Spectacular

I am so thankful for my kid’s mom. I must honor her on Mother’s Day.  She so deserves it. Her love for her family is fierce and deep.  He loyalty to her offspring, unprecedented. She has been an amazing mom, and continues to be.  Caring for the kids physical lives. Feeding them, rocking them, loving them, seeing them through teething, ear infections, dr’s appointments, vomiting all over,  and all of that.  I won’t even mention the broken teeth, bones, nose, and other ER visits, she had to endure.   She cared for them physically.

As a mom, she has not neglected their spiritual lives. Which reflects in their personalities and character.  One of my greatest memories is Wendy reading to the kids.  On the sofa they would clutter together like a pack of puppies for the precious time of mom reading to them. Books, the Bible, the Chronicles of Narnia,  etc.  I recall her kneeling beside their beds as they sleep, calling their names out Heaven, before any of us were up.  They would then talk about what they read. She lovingly and patiently with great wisdom and understanding of God and the Bible, answered the showers of questions. Their mom chose not to disconnect from their lives, but stayed involved, informed, and immersed in what they were doing and what they were involved in.

Her voice of encouragement and her faith was/is the foundation of their confidence and identity, setting it strong, so they can build upon it with their own faith.   She made sure our schedules were clear for every event, every school award, every concert, every graduation.  We never missed.  She loves sports (when her children are part). Thousands of hours at football, Lacrosse, Wrestling, Soccer, community ed baseball, basketball, and more.  She put them before herself in every way, sacrificing in ways that moms do, with excitement and zeal.

I love their mom, prays for them, worries about them, never falls fully asleep until they are all safe, and relishes, with great depth, every time we are all together.

My three amazing kids are a product of their amazing mom.  She continues to amaze me with her love and care for all of them.  She has made me look good as a dad. Wendy has helped me be a better father, and our children be amazing young adults.

To think years ago, leaving a Dr’s office, we grappled with the words spoken to us that it is highly unlikely we would ever have children.  For the sake of my best friend, I stormed Heaven with prayers I did not know I was capable of praying.  We praise Him for the blessing of our children and I praise Him, and honor Wendy for the blessing of being married to my children’s mom for the last 30 years. She continues to warm my heart with her amazing dedication and love for her family. Happy Mother’s Day Wendy. I am so glad I am married, and am  best friends, with my children’s mom. She is so awesome.


Personal Post, my life the last couple weeks.

Just a personal post.  Some have said they enjoy this, some will never read it, and has no interest. That is cool. I am good with either.

Took time this morning to thank God for his presence in my life and for my wife and family, Wendy and the kids. I have so much to be thankful to Christ for. For without him, it is all futile. He is the giver of all good gifts.  The Holy Spirit is reminding me in different ways lately to develop a deeper heart of gratitude.

Last week we moved my father from our home in Morenci to Temperance. He had been there for 49 years.  I grew up knowing no other home. It was a little nostalgic for myself and my sister as we packed him up. I know Pam will miss him, as will his grandsons, as they were close to Morenci.   I believe it was tough for him to say goodbye to the place, but he is now a mile from me and I have seen him daily.  I had lunch with him yesterday. Today we will take a ride around Toledo.  Wendy has him eating good, and he is getting settled.  One thing is for sure about life, is that it is ever-changing.

I went a couple weeks ago to my first professional woodcarving lesson. It was about 6 hours. Wendy gave it to me for my birthday.  It was amazing.  I learned under an incredible young man and wood sculpturer from Rochester Hills.  His name is Alec Lacasse. He is crazy-talented and a great teacher and brother in Christ. He is only 21 years old and is carving such stunning works. Check out his stuff if you are interested.  Click here to go to Alec’s site.

I have been trying to carve more since the lesson so I don’t forget. I love woodcarving. I really sense the Lord’s presence as I carve and an undeniable peace.  The lesson helped so much. I plan on another one in December.  There are many genres in woodcarving. I am focusing in on realistic face carving.

God put a strong word of encouragement on my heart for the weekend message. If you missed it, and you are in need of a little strength from the Lord, please take a listen and let the Holy Spirit breath faith into your spirit.  Click here

Gabe and Levi won their football game on Friday. They are both on Bedford’s Varsity team and doing great. I love going to watch them. One more week and wrestling season is upon us!  Hooray!!!

Abby and Justin are busy in Grand Rapids, working, interning, full-time students and all.  We miss them and look forward to their visits. I am proud of them.

Looking forward to the rest of this day.  Praying about November Series and trying to tune into the will of the Lord for us.  I have a million thoughts sometimes so I have to really focus.

Walk with the Lord today.  Stand strong in the face of adversity.  Don’t compromise your calling to Jesus.  I leave you with some of my favorite verses.

12:1-3   Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.
New American Standard Bible: 1995 update. (1995). (Heb 12:1–3). LaHabra, CA: The Lockman Foundation.

20 Reasons Wendy and I Enjoy a Great Marraige, Happy Valentine’s Day

Many may wonder or ask why Wendy and I have a great marriage. We do, not a perfect one, as no one is perfect, but a great one.   I am a blessed man to be married to Wendy. I have known Wendy for 30 years and married for 26. We met in  a Christian Bookstore and the Lord orchestrated it all, so our relationship would glorify him and bless us.  Here are some quick reasons why our marriage is great, vibrant, growing, and full of love.

  1. We don’t just love each other!  We like each other.
  2. We have learned to live for the other, not for ourselves.  It is hard sometimes, but we strive for unselfishness.  We serve each other.
  3. We know that “love covers a multitude of sins”, and we don’t freak out at each other for every little thing.
  4. We don’t control each other.  So common and so unhealthy.
  5. We live out to each other “Do unto others as you would have other do unto you.”
  6. We protect our marriage from outside things that would want to tear our marriage apart. We practice relational, emotional, and sexual integrity and purity. We do not flirt or overly communicate with others of the opposite sex.
  7. We don’t share our marriage with others, or talk to others about things only Wendy and I should discuss.
  8. We are honest.
  9. I lead my family spiritually and don’t push it off on Wendy.  Guys, this is the key.
  10. I father my children and support her.
  11. We get away, and communicate.  Not as much as we would like but more often than most couples.  Make time for each other.
  12. We take on issues and circumstances as a united front and don’t attack each other.
  13. We laugh together and joke with each other.
  14. We don’t live separate lives with separate friends, and separate interests, with separate checkbooks, separate churches, or separate values.
  15. We pray for each other, encourage each other, and grow in love on purpose.
  16. We do not say the “D” word, ever (divorce).
  17. We value each other and respect each other, so we do not communicate with anger, name calling, disrespect, personal attacks or hate.
  18. We do not go to clubs or bars, we do not drink, or take part in the sensuality of society. WE do not flirt with the world’s idea of fun and leisure.
  19. We love Jesus with all of our heart, and our children.
  20. We never gave up, learned these skills, and moved forward with hope and faith.

I hope that encourages you. I pray your marriage will grow through all the seasons of life.

NOTE:  If you are a pastor or ministry leader reading this, we have done marriage seminars and would be glad to talk to you about scheduling one. Contact Wendy @

Levi’s Healing

Levi’s Healing,

Levi in Ironwood Michigan

I want to share what happened to us at Michigan Family  Camp.  The speaker for the week, Joe Phillips spoke on healing and called anyone up who needed a touch from God in their body.  Levi responded for healing for his lower jaw, as we are trying to correct an extreme underbite at the U of M.  The correction process we are in is trying to avoid a surgery on his jaw.  I stepped out of the service, came back in and Levi ran up to me, visible shaken, saying “I felt my jaw move back, God healed my jaw, I went up for healing in my jaw and God moved it!  I felt it move into place!”   I examined his teeth line up perfectly.  That was about 1/4 or 1/3  inch move. I can’t wait for our next appointment at U of M for the surgery to be forgotten about. I just want to share that with you!  God still is healing and he touched our son and we are grateful!!  Isn’t that awesome!  I am very blessed knowing that my Father cares about my son!!!!  Levi responded in faith to his need, and our Father in Heaven gave him a Heavenly touch.  “We have not because we ask not.”  I praise my God.

News from the U.P.

I can see why people fall in life with the UP. It is very beautiful. The lake we are staying on in gorgeous, the people up here are super friendly. We have been enjoying our vacation not doing much, but vacationing.  Hanging out with our great friends Todd and Robin Winkler has been a joy.   We have been catching up on sleep, reading, as well as fishing, tubing, walking, laughing, and enjoying a break from the schedule of life.

When we return I am looking forward to jumping into what God has for Compelled Church!  There is so much Kingdom work to do!  I believe the Lord is going to multiply our efforts to be a missional church, reaching people for Jesus Christ in Monroe and Lucas County!  Our Toledo Site is going to be launched!  I am very excited about that.  Compelled Church is going to need to step out in faith, as we pray, financially give, and be part of this missional and glocal (local and global) expression of Christ’s love!

I am Compelled!   14 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again. (2 Cor. 5:14,15).

My Abigail Lea is 17

Wendy and I were so blessed 17 years ago when Abby was born.  It was a miracle in more than one sense.  She has been a joy.  I am pretty proud of her in so many ways and my love for her grows daily.  We are so proud at the young lady she has become. She continues to live with conviction, holiness, happiness, and wholeness.  She is crazy funny, strongly determined, and Spirit sweet.  We will celebrate with a birthday picnic.  I can say this. I am as proud of her as a father can be.   Her love for Jesus, her family, her friends, and others grows daily.  Happy 17 Abigail! You are as awesome and amazing young lady. God has His hand on your life and you will continue to be blessed.

We are at Michigan Family Camp

This is year 13 for the Elarton’s to be here at Family camp. It has been a busy fun few days so far.  I love the environment year, the friends, the fun, and the break from it all.  We have enjoyed exercise, our kids, long-time friends, and the presence of the Lord.  It has been a tradition in our family, and for the price and all the activities, it cannot be beat.  Wendy and I want to make great memories for our kids.  We want them to have more opportunities to be in God’s presence, with God’s people, seeking His face, as well as having a lot of fun.  There are a few families here from Compelled Church also!  So, headed to the Lake now, to sit, laugh, carve, blob my kids, or to the indoor pool, and later I might just cast a line in Tim’s Lake to catch this giant Pike I am hearing so much about.

Being a dad

I am blessed to be a dad. There was a time in our lives that we were told we would never have children and for 8 years we did not.  I am thankful for my Heavenly Father who has allowed this.  I am thankful for my kids, Gabe, Levi, and Abby.  Thank you Wendy for being such a great wife.