When Mother’s Day is Hard

Mother’s Day is here tomorrow. It is a wonderful holiday and many will get together with their moms, exchange gifts, have dinner or lunch together, enjoy a long chat on the phone or some Facetime or Skype with their mothers.  I know that there is a secret, and quiet group of people that do not look forward to this holiday, and actually dread it.  Wendy and I acknowledge that, and realize that.  I remember the Mother’s Day services Wendy would skip the couple years after the Dr. told us we would not have children.  She just could not go.  I remember a couple years back the first Mother’s Day after mom went to be with the Lord.  We had just had her Memorial Service then Mother’s Day.  It was a tough day.  Many in our body, have lost moms the last few years, and even if it has not been in the last few years, it still can be tough.  I know one lady said she did not like Mother’s Day because she could never find a card. They all described perfect, wonderful, loving, and nurturing moms, which her mom was not. She dreaded the day, the cards, the expectations, and church.  Now, I don’t think we should abolish the Holiday, but we also need to be loving to those who will “limp” through this day with some tough and deep feelings.  Here are some practical helps I hope.

  • Just because Hallmark has declared it a holiday, if it brings you grief, feel free to ignore it.  Jesus is the same on MOther’s Day.
  • If you are grieving the loss of your mom, then grieve.   Spend some time alone. Write a note to your mom and put it away.  Take a walk.
  • Remember the great blessing your mom was while here on this earth.  Forget the bad memories, don’t let them grow, focus on the good memories. Be thankful for everyone, the time, and the blessings.
  • Our church will not be glorifying motherhood, as Wendy has a message for all of us, but we won’t completely ignore it either.
  • Pray for other moms that you know have a full plate.  Pray and intercede for them.
  • Study some great moms in the Bible, If you need to get your mind of things.
  • If you can’t take it and just don’t feel like seeing people or coming to church…..then don’t.  Stay home and spend time with the Lord.
  • Know that I have made a list of those of us that have lost moms in the last few years and your pastor has prayed for you. Wendy and I  love you all and hurt for and with you.
  • Also know, on Mother’s day that you are a blessed woman, even if you are hurting, God is with you. He never leaves us or forsakes us.

I know this post falls very inadequate to address such a fragile topic. May God just touch you this weekend at your point of need, whatever that it.  May you be blessed, feel his presence and know your significance in Christ regardless of the past or the present.                               Pastor Nate

”  Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself and God our Father, who has loved us and given us eternal comfort and good hope by grace,  comfort and strengthen your hearts in every good work and word. ”

1 Thess. 2.16,17

New American Standard Bible : 1995 update. 1995 (2 Th 2:16–17). LaHabra, CA: The Lockman Foundation.

7 thoughts on “When Mother’s Day is Hard

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  1. What a special insight Nate! Your understanding is appreciated by many women today and thank you for putting into words what many feel. God bless you !

  2. Thanks Nate and Wendy…the blog post…todays message. Gods comfort is there. I am glad i know the Lord..I am praying for those who do not and have lost there Moms. I could not have got thru if it was not for Gods help and an amazing church familys support during and now after.
    God bless you

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